The Connection between Style and Self-Care
In my work as an Image Consultant, it’s not uncommon for me to get some pretty interesting reactions from people when they are introduced to my career. For the most part, people are excited that I focus on style and updating the looks of my clients. On occasion, I get people who think that what I do is “cute” or “a hobby.” In their minds, fashion, clothing, hair and makeup are all “frivolous” and “shallow.” While I can respect that everyone has their own opinions, I am here to set the record straight.
Presenting yourself well and feeling confident in the way you look is anything but “silly” or “vain.” I am a firm believer that tending after your image is one of the highest forms of self-care. When you feel good about the way you are put together it translates into each and every part of your life. You approach your career fiercely. You showcase your abilities in job interviews or client meetings with confidence. You approach your personal life with clarity. It’s easier to turn down a lame second date and realize you deserve more when you are feeling sure of your worth. It’s easier to exit a toxic relationship or friendship when you are in tune with your personal goals. When you feel right about the way you present yourself, you intuitively make choices from a more authentic place. There is something to be said for the transformative effect that a fresh haircut, tailored outfit, or killer pair of heels can bring.
Although style and image are largely focused on the outside of a person, they are a reflection of your inward view of yourself. When you put in the time and effort to present yourself well, you communicate to others that you are worth time and effort. When you invest in yourself, you convey to others that you are worth investing in. Now I'm not advising you to run out and max out every credit card in your wallet on designer apparel. I want you to simply take care of yourself without guilt; whatever that might mean for you. For some, that might mean carving out time to actually shower and do your hair. For others, they may not feel put together without a full face of makeup and a fully accessorized outfit.
What I want you to take away from this article, more than anything, is that you never need to feel silly for taking time for YOU. Self-care is not selfish. It's the fuel we need to continue living an amazing life. So the next time someone tries to make you feel small, silly, or vain for investing in yourself, you can gracefully disagree; because you know that taking care of yourself through style, grooming or even nail polish shows that you respect and value yourself. Make the effort you need for YOU, and feel empowered to take on the world.